Many generations have been taught that self-appreciation is arrogant - that somehow it is not fitting (SelfAppreciation.htm). For many of us, self-appreciation can be challenging. We have been trained to beat ourselves up, to be self-deprecating, and many of us simply haven’t been encouraged to genuinely focus on what we like and admire about ourselves (Robbins, 2006).
Self-Appreciation is about accepting yourself exactly as you are. It is about loving and honoring ourselves for all that we do, and more importantly, for all that we are. It is also about acknowledging your unique gifts. Within everyone is a highly creative, highly skilled being, just waiting to be discovered. Many of us catch glimpses of this in moments of inspiration, but then most immediately begin to compare ourselves to others, telling ourselves that their work or creation is more valuable than our own.
In the midst of our busy lives, our daily activities, our successes, and even our struggles, it is important for us to stop and truly appreciate ourselves. It must be said however, that without self appreciation, all the other things that you are striving for, will either elude you, or simply remain a struggle. Self-appreciation is the key to true success and fulfillment. The great news is that we have access to appreciating ourselves in every moment…it is simply a choice (Robbins, 2006).
To know one’s own worth and to honor the worth of others is the true way to earn respect. Respect is an acknowledgement of the inherent worth and innate rights of the individual and the collective. These must be recognized as the central focus to draw from people a commitment to a higher purpose in life.
Respect for others is based on self-respect and is summed up in the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. It is the value that makes the world a more decent and civilized place. (www.pearsall.k12.tx.us/Character Education/virtue_RESPECT.htm)
Self-respect means taking satisfaction in appropriate behavior and hard—won accomplishments. People with self-respect also respect others.
HOW TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF (Source: http://www.goodcharacter.com/)
• Be careful about comparing yourself to other people. Sometimes that can make you feel good or even inspire you to improve in some way. But sometimes it can make you overlook what's truly good about yourself and cause you to feel bad.
• Think about times when you've done something good. Include those times when you've made a difference to somebody else by being helpful, kind, or thoughtful.
• Take part in activities that make you feel good such as hobbies, reading, sports, or spending time with good friends.
• Don’t be so afraid of failing that you're not willing to try something new. New experiences can help you grow and discover wonderful new things about yourself.
• When you do fail at something, don't get down on yourself. Think about what you can learn from the experience and how you can do better next time.
• Think about things you do well. Take pride in your successes.
• Remember, the most important thing about people is what we're like inside, not what we own or what we've accomplished.
HOW TO TREAT OTHERS WITH RESPECT (www.goodcharacter.com)
Treating people with respect makes your world a nicer place to live in, whether it's at home, at school, or out in your community. And it's easy - all you have to do is treat people the way you like to have them treat you. Here are a few ideas.
• Don't insult people or make fun of them.• Listen to others when they speak.• Value other people's opinions.• Be considerate of people's likes and dislikes.• Don't mock or tease people.
• Don't talk about people behind their backs.• Be sensitive to other people's feelings.
• Don't pressure someone to do something he or she doesn't want to do.
We live in a diverse nation made up of many different cultures, languages, races, and backgrounds. That kind of variety can make all our lives a lot more fun and interesting, but only if we get along with each other. And to do that we have to respect each other. In addition to the list above, here are some ways we can respect people who are different from us.
• Try to learn something from the other person.• Never stereotype people.• Show interest and appreciation for other people's cultures and backgrounds.• Don't go along with prejudices and racist attitudes.
Monday, June 29, 2009
4TH MEETING:SELF-RESPECT/RESPECT FOR OTHERS (READINGS)
Posted by Professor Mondez at 9:43 PM
3RD MEETING: GUIDE QUESTIONS FOR JOURNAL ENTRY
If you will have one outstanding virtue, what would you want it to be? Why?
Posted by Professor Mondez at 9:38 PM
3RD MEETING: MY PERSONAL VALUES
Personal values are the desirable qualities, standards or principles which serve as persons’ driving force that influence their actions and reactions. Knowing ones values offers so many advantages. It helps us follow a clear set of rules and guidelines for our actions. It guides us in making good decisions. Through this, we can find compatible people, places and things that support our way of living. It motivates us to be true to ourselves. Living our values is one of the most powerful tools available to help us become the person we want to be, accomplish our goals, and influence others. (Best-of-time –management.com/values.htm)
Just as individuals give importance to values, so do organizations and institutions like MCL. Mission, Vision and Core Values define the organizations’ culture or way of life of its members. At the core of organizational culture are values. These values shape the quality of life and structure of an organization. The organization is successful to the degree to which all the members have shared values expressed through their goals and beliefs. There has to be an alignment between ones personal values and the values of an organization he belongs to. This will help us journey on the same boat towards a common vision. (Adapted from Hall-Tonna Values Framework and Technology)
MCL encourages every Malayans to practice the value of competence, truth/wisdom, knowledge, research, problem solving, excellence, punctuality, teamwork, quality service, integrity, accountability and sense of ownership (all for one, one for all). Make these the cornerstone of your life.
Challenge yourself
After this session, for two days in school, you are going to practice/implement/actualize your top two values. You have the options to practice one or both values in a day. On your journal, write your reflections (for day one and day two) separately using the outline below. Hope you will enjoy and learn meaningfully from this challenge.
Outline
- the date/time of experience
- the values you have practiced
- the story/experience
(details: people, location, event, situations, ways the values have been practiced and the reactions of the involved people)
- your feelings during the experience
- the learning from your experience
Posted by Professor Mondez at 9:29 PM
Sunday, June 21, 2009
2ND MEETING: PERSONAL VALUES CHECK LIST (ASSIGNMENT)
Name:__________________________ Date:___________________ Yr./Program:_____________________
Below is a list of important personal values culled from years of observing individual success. Select/encircle 10 values which are most important to you – as guides for how to behave, as components of a valued way of life.
Common Personal Values
1. Accomplishment, Success
2. Accountability
3. Accuracy
4. Adventure
5. All for one & one for all
6. Beauty
7. Calm, quietude, peace
8. Challenge
9. Change
10. Cleanliness, orderliness
11. Collaboration
12. Commitment
13. Communication
14. Community
15. Competence
16. Competition
17. Concern for others
18. Content over form
19. Continuous improvement
20. Cooperation
21. Coordination
22. Country, love of (patriotism)
23. Creativity
24. Customer satisfaction
25. Decisiveness
26. Delight of being, joy
27. Democracy
28. Discipline
29. Discovery
30. Ease of Use
31. Efficiency
32. Equality
33. Excellence
34. Fairness
35. Faith
36. Family
37. Family feeling
38. Flair
39. Freedom
40. Friendship
41. Fun
42. Global view
43. Good will
44. Goodness
45. Gratitude
46. Hard work
47. Harmony
48. Honesty
49. Honor
50. Independence
51. Inner peace, calm, quietude
52. Innovation
53. Integrity
54. Justice
55. Knowledge
56. Leadership
57. Love, Romance
58. Loyalty
59. Maximum utilization (of time, resources)
60. Meaning
61. Merit
62. Money
63. Openness
64. Peace, Non-violence
65. Perfection (e.g. of details)
66. Personal Growth
67. Pleasure
68. Positive attitude
69. Power
70. Practicality
71. Preservation
72. Privacy
73. Problem Solving
74. Progress
75. Prosperity, Wealth
76. Punctuality
77. Quality of work
78. Regularity Resourcefulness
79. Respect for others
80. Responsiveness
81. Results-oriented
82. Rule of Law
83. Safety
84. Satisfying others
85. Security
86. Self-givingness
87. Self-reliance
88. Service (to others, society)
89. Simplicity
90. Skill
91. Speed
92. Spirit in life (using)
93. Stability
94. Standardization
95. Status
96. StrengthSucceed; A will to-Success, Achievement
97. Systemization
98. Teamwork
99. Timeliness
100. Tolerance
101. Tradition
102. Tranquility
103. Trust
104. Truth
105. Unity
106. Variety
107. Wisdom
(Adapted from The Power of Personal Values by Roy Posner & MSS, June 10, 2006)
(Values Education1/Center for Student Development)
Posted by Professor Mondez at 6:38 PM
2ND MEETING: GUIDE QUESTIONS FOR JOURNAL ENTRIES
1. How was your first week of stay at MCL?
2. Describe your professors. What are traits do you find positive in each one?
3. Describe your blockmates/section. What do you think are the strengths and weaknesses of your section?
4. How do you find your courses? Which ones do you think are easy and which ones do you think are a little bit challenging? Why?
5. Do you have any adjustment you feel you are going through or must go through? What are they? Cite examples in terms in your academics, emotions, and social environment.
Other Assignments for the 2nd Week:
A. Read “Coping with the Transition to College”.
B. Assignment for next meeting:
Identify your 10 most important values using the Personal Value Checklist.
Posted by Professor Mondez at 6:29 PM
2ND MEETING: COPING WITH THE TRANSITION TO COLLEGE (READINGS)
Adapted from articles by Robin F. Goodman, Ph.D. (http://aboutourkids.org/) and Edel Davenport, M.S., L.P.C. (http://www.uoregon.edu/~counsel/transitions.htm)
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the things you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. . . . Explore. Dream." -- Mark Twain
Going to college is more than just "going back to school." The departure is a significant milestone in the life of a family and ushers in a period of transition, requiring an adjustment on the part of the college student, the primary caregiver(s), other family members, and friends. For the traditional and non-traditional student alike, the transition to college is often a time when students develop a new balance between separateness and connectedness with family members and friends (Perlman, 2000).
Challenges for the college student
Take care of yourself Remember it is generally helpful to:
1. 'Acknowledge' your thoughts, feelings, reactions (at least internally) without making a judgment (e.g., I am really feeling sad; I am angry, scared; I am feeling inadequate, etc.).
3. Reassure yourself that no matter what you think or feel, it is all right even if it is negative; there is a difference between thinking and feeling something and acting it out which may not be healthy, constructive or acceptable. Thoughts/feelings do NOT equal actions. Ask yourself, given your feelings/thoughts, what would be helpful right now? What might you be able to do to comfort yourself and/or to deal with the situation constructively.
4. Remember previous adjustments. For example, when you first started high school, went to camp, started a new job...imagine what you felt like. Note your feelings, thoughts from that experience. How did you deal with it? What was comforting to you?
5. How do you generally deal with stress? What else could you do to soothe/take care of yourself? Try making a list of activities.
6. Do you ever use drugs, alcohol, or food to help yourself 'feel better?' If so, what could you do instead?
Follow the tips for mental health on a daily basis
Explore new interests, discover new places, and meet new people. These experiences contribute to college life and help keep you inspired about your academic education. Before committing to any one group or trend, students should take their time getting to know other students, investigating different activities, and deciding what makes them feel most comfortable. Affiliations change a great deal over the course of the first year as students become more knowledgeable and confident.
***** Should you need any assistance regarding this concern, the Center for Student Development is always available to help you.
Values Education 1/Center for Student Development
Posted by Professor Mondez at 5:58 PM
2ND MEETING: WISH KO LANG (READINGS)
It feels good remembering and talking about our high school days. Many would say that high school is the happiest phase in one’s educational journey.
Perhaps, you would never forget the intramurals, school foundation day celebrations, field trips, recollections/retreats, school competitions (such as singing, dancing, battle of the bands, essay writing, quiz bee, talent and beauty contests), the Junior and Senior Prom, and of course the graduation day.
Try to recall the first time you received a love note from an admirer? What about the chocolates and roses given to you during Valentine’s Day? What about your first crush, your first dance in one of the organized parties in school? Your first boyfriend or girlfriend?
Do you still remember your classmate who made you laugh with his funny jokes? What about the ‘gimiks” with your friends or “katropa”? Think of your best friend who has always been by your side through thick and thin. Remember the teachers who motivated you to keep on believing in yourself.
From time to time, it’s really nice recalling these wonderful experiences, the experiences in high school that made you laughed, cried and felt blessed. But life must go on. You definitely have to move on and sail on towards the direction of your vision in life. Wherever you are, your wonderful experiences in high school will always be a special part of you.
Now, as you enter another chapter in your life in college, it is natural for a freshman like you to wish and hope that your college life would be as beautiful as your high school days. College, just like high school, also has lots of exciting and good things to offer. However, as students, you have to maximize the available opportunities. You have to be involved, take active participation, exert effort and utilize every chance at hand.
The two lines pre-drawn in the paper that you have received is very much similar to your wishes and the good things MCL could offer to you. The lines are the available opportunities and resources, already given, just within your reach. These opportunities also serve as raw materials for the realization of your wishes. Your effort to draw or form the best you could make out of the given lines is the act of maximizing these opportunities. See how beautiful and meaningful the figures or images you have formed out of the given lines. At first it seemed impossible, but with your will to bring out the best out of what is given, you were able to produce an image of the “Best” you want to project.
Life is what we make. The fulfillment of your wishes in college is a matter of choice, an effort to maximize the given opportunities and resources and the will to always give your best.
Posted by Professor Mondez at 5:53 PM
Saturday, June 20, 2009
1st MEETING: GUIDE QUESTIONS FOR JOURNAL ENTRIES
1. In the first few days you've spent in MCL, how would you compare your highschool life to what you envisioned college life to be?
2. What is the importance of Values Education?
Posted by Professor Mondez at 12:20 AM
1st MEETING: COLLEGE LIFE (READINGS)
Thoughts
You’re in college already!
Your first few days in college are characterized by feeling of both excitement and worry. You are excited to see and experience by yourself what others are telling you about it. At the same time, you probably worry about how it is to live a life in collage world.
Who among you felt tensed when you took the entrance test? Can you still recall the feeling when the admission officer confirmed your admission at MCL? When you saw MCL for the first time during campus tour, didn’t you find yourself saying “Wow ang ganda naman dito”, “Wow ang laki naman ng MCL”, “Dito ako magka-college”.
Enrolment in College just like at MCL could be something new to you also. Might be, your parents often times did it for you, or they used to accompany you all throughout the process. Perhaps you were caught unaware that you’ll be doing it by yourself here at MCL, that you and your parents will have to separate ways: (they have to stay at the parents’ waiting area while you’re enrolling). You probably felt worried and unsure if you can do it but in the end, you reaped the good feeling of accomplishing something by yourself. Then, came the orientation day, how many of you feel excited meeting new faces? How many of you felt shy, tensed and worried being with the company of strangers. Perhaps, the orientation also helped you know MCL much deeper. What about during the first day of class, how many of you have easily established friendship and connections with other students? Who among you felt insecure, unsure, uncomfortable, tensed and felt like going home already?
All the feelings of excitement, worry, fear, insecurity, tension and uncertainty are natural feelings commonly experienced by freshman college student like you. There is nothing wrong feeling that way. Commonly, freshmen student in college will pass through this stage called “adjustment period”. It is period of adapting yourself into a new environment, getting to know new acquaintances, and learning a new system. Adjustment period may last for few months. If in case you find difficulty adjusting to college, don’t hesitate to ask for help. You may share you concern with your family, with your trusted friends and teachers. And of course, The Center for Student Development, an office dedicated for the service of the students, will always make time to serve you.
Welcome to College life, Welcome to Malayan Colleges Laguna!
Posted by Professor Mondez at 12:18 AM
NATURE AND IMPORTANCE OF VALUES EDUCATION
Nature and Importance of Values Education
VALUES EDUCATION
Values Education as a part of the school curriculum is the process by which values are formed in the learner under the guidance of the teacher and as he interacts with this environment.
GOALS AND OBJECTIVES
Values have a social function: commonly held values unite families, tribes, societies, and nations. They are essential to the democratic way of life, which puts a high premium on freedom and the rule of law. That is why, shortly after the Revolution of February 1986, the DECS made values education a primary thrust.
Similarly, the DECS thrust found strong support in the Philippine Constitution of 1987 in its vision of "a just and humane society," which calls for a shared culture and commonly held values such as "truth, justice, freedom, love, equality and peace." (Preamble)
In the pursuit of this thrust, the DECS has embarked on a Values Education Program with the following goal and objectives:
GOAL
To provide and promote values education at all three levels of the educational system for the development of the human person committed to the building of " a just and humane society" and an independent and democratic nation.
OBJECTIVES
Proper implementation of the program will develop Filipinos who:
are self-actualized, integrally developed human beings imbued with a sense of human dignity;
are social beings with a sense of responsibility for their community and environment;
are productive persons who contribute to the economic security and development of the family and the nation; as citizens have a deep sense of nationalism and are committed to the progress of the nation as well as of the entire world community through global solidarity; and
manifest in actual life an abiding faith in God as a reflection of their spiritual being.
Reference: Values Education for the Filipino
1997 Revised Version of the DECS Values Education ProgramUNESCO National Commission of the PhilippinesEducation Committee Project
Center for Student Development
Posted by Professor Mondez at 12:13 AM
Sunday, June 14, 2009
WELCOME NOTE
Welcome Malayan Wizards!This blog site is dedicated for you. Use your account when you write your journal entries. You are expected to comply in this course by posting your entries on time. You are given only one week to enter your writeups. I will be checking and recording your entries every week.May you have fun using high-technolgy in journaling! Im very happy that you belong to my class. I look forward in getting to know you more!
Sincerely,
Professor RG Mondez
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